Presently there are several reasons which say why a lady ends up not having any kids. It may be that she’s not ready to become a mum at that specific point in her life, given educational or career goals. It could be as she hasn’t decided for sure yet whether she would like children. Or she'd know that she doesn’t ever wish to have the experience of parenthood. Or she could have fertility issues.
Or she could be what Melanie Notkin, founder behind savvyauntie.com and author of Savvy Auntie lately called herself: “circumstantially infertile.” By this she means she mostly wanted youngsters, but the right circumstance has never presented itself namely that she hasn’t found love, Or the right partner to have a kid with—yet.
Unless she knows she is sterile, might it also be more accurate to say she’s child less By circumstance To the very best of her understanding she can biologically have youngsters so she’s not sterile. She’s kid less As she wants kids but doesn’t have them, and is in that circumstance as the circumstances she wants for herself aren’t in place yet.
Considering it this way, she remains childless by choice. It is her choice to hang around for the right partner. There are other selections; she may have a young child on her own. She could adopt a kid and raise it on her very own. Waiting for the right circumstance is really a choice.
She may not have a kid of her very own, but it’s not left her non-maternal. These are some very smart words from this savvy auntie:
I love the kids in my life with limitless attention. If I wasn’t meant to be a mother to 2.1 children, then perhaps I was meant to be motherly to several more. From a girl in Tanzania I have adopted as a niece and e-mail with many times per week, to the small ones down the hall in my studio building, and naturally to my amazing nephew and nieces by relation, I’m an aunt.
I’m not childless, I’m childfull. I’m not a mother but I’m maternal to the girls that are on the other side of hope, know you're stronger than your womb. You are motherly whether pregnancy ever comes.
Needing to be a mother or not, like Melanie, here’s to finding the childfull place that is correct for each one of us.
Laura Carroll is the writer of Families of Two, and reviews books these subjects and more at her site, LiveTrue Books.
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